Resistance to Change (or Familiarity) is like a 1 ton anchor wrapped around one’s neck preventing individuals from Change (the Key word), regardless of how bad they may be doing or feeling…(8/14/18)

Human nature is such that People Often do the same thing in Life and expect different results.  And Yes I was going down that path in Life as well…  If I did not Finally TRY something different and Change course (i.e. the Tremendous Program I came across), when I was at Rock Bottom, I would have been a Gonner at age 46, Undoubtedly.  And, Yes this former type behavior of mine was really “insane” by definition.

For those who are suffering out there, it does take Hard Work and Commitment to reap the benefits of Change addressed in this Book. But like everything in Life, in order to get really good at anything, We have to Work Hard at it.  And this Certainly applies to Us, when We Work On Ourselves the Proper Way.

Resistance to Change, is the Biggest Hurdle One has to get past, to Begin and Proceed through the Process of Change.  There are So Many excuses People come up with, preventing them from going through with this Process. Really though, these excuses are really nothing but negative thinking going on.  When I look back at all such mind games I was playing, it was absolutely ridiculous the excuses I made, and besides being in flat out denial about matters. It just does not make sense having this attitude, Knowing Ultimately, the Tremendous Positive Feelings and Relief shedding All those Pains of Anxiety & Depression, Gaining Control of Our Lives (i.e. in One’s Thoughts and Actions), and allowing Us to Aspire and reach Our Full Potential. There Absolutely Can’t Be a Better Feeling!!!   So Why Resist Such Change???

The Key thing about thoughts of Change is to ask Ourselves, what are the benefits of Changing vs. not Changing? I am talking about just How We React to things as it amounts to Mainly… Although if we need to amend or shore up Our Foundation to be Good People, well that is another Focus of Change to strive for being the Basis of Our Positivity! …  The Power and the Benefits when We (consider) Change here, in Gaining Control of Our Lives the Best We Can, and Going way beyond that Actually, should Grossly Outweigh any thoughts of the benefits (?) to not Change, where there really are only negative unreal excuses going on.

Section 6.11 in the Book (Courage to Change) addresses all the resistances to Change We Need to get past to proceed through the Process to Reap the Power in this Book, as We Read it and Work It!  This listing includes “Common Resistances to Change”, and “Secondary Gains” People may have holding onto Their Condition. Blog post link https://riseandshineanxietydepression.net/2019/08/25, includes the section 6.11 in full. 

One Common Resistance to Change is thinking … “that is just the way I am and I can’t change”.  Sorry, but that is So negative and Untrue!  We are All humans here, and We are all wired the same with the same Biological/Physiological make-up.  So when We know How Best To drill down to Our individual negative thoughts and the sources of Our negativity (compliments of the Book), and Deal with All this the Very Best Way, this Personalizes the Process.  That’s why this translates to Everyone!

A common resistance not mentioned in the Book which is likely pertinent to today’s …. got to be Cool mentality, could be just that.  Well, to be Honest (needless to say), it does not seem too Cool while going through the Steps and Process of Change here, but I can Assure You How Literally Cool it is when We get there, with No Better Feeling going on :)!

One of the “Secondary Gains” of not changing, occurs when Suffers are babied or enabled by a Loved One…  And usually the Enabler does not see the down side of what they are doing.  I have a Cousin in upstate NY., who has essentially been locked in his bedroom/ His Mom’s Home, for almost 30  years actually, So afraid of Living Life and refusing to TRY Change so He could Live a Fulfilling Life. Half the reason being, He has been Enabled by His Mom through all the years, and She unfortunately had been equally in denial.  SO VERY SAD! Tough Love at a times like this Is Necessary!  Note: Just got back from my Vacation, and my Aunt (his Mom) passed away when I was up at The Lake :(.  I went to the funeral and when I returned from The Lake a few days after, I went to try to talk to my Cousin to no avail… He would not answer the door. He is in Deep Trouble now and I have tried Everything to coax or convince Him on these matters… SOOO SAD!!!  And his Brother has been homeless for years, and his Sister, appears to have serious Issues as well ::(( …  Fortunately, the (3) older Cousins, closest to my age, are doing Good.

Final note of Interest: Ironically, from what I have witnessed myself, 100% of the time, the Ones that Need to Change & this Book the Most, are the first Ones who run away from it the fastest.  They tend to be the most Defensive or Offensive about it actually when approached.  Unfortunately, Those likely will continue in their ways, not receptive to Change, until maybe when they Hit Rock Bottom. Such Unnecessary Pain!

Something to Think about All, and as Usual, Have a Good Day if not a Great Day and :)! And if Ya can’t, then You have come to the right place…

Author Ron