“Parent’s Self-Help Guide for the Youngins” Preface/Summary… Lead in thoughts/factors for Guide’s Content… Also Table of Contents included.

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PREFACE/SUMMARY

When I heard of a 12 yr old, still a Child, Struggling in Life… Someone I knew of & knew of this Older Child’s predicament, my wheels started turning… Bottom line, I was just Yearning to reach out and Help!… It is just in my Blood, Who I am, & Who I have become… 

My Son Knowing my rather Extreme Levels of Drive and Passion per the Reference Book I wrote, “Rise and Shine Anxiety & Depression & Life Management Tools”, indicated, I would definitely write another Book sometime in the future…  What I said to that, I told him in No Way could I put 10% of this same Drive and Passion in anything else, so that won’t be happening…! However, when I heard of this Youngin in Need coupled with Desires to Reach out and Help, I thought maybe I can Really do this!… Well, I Know it is entirely up to the Father & Close Relative in this case, to be receptive to any suggested Help, but, nonetheless, I jumped to the task thinking, how I could Best Help this Child or any Child or Youngin? 

So Actually, on 5/14/20 eve, before going to bed, I asked, Yep :), God,… do I have what it Takes to write a Parent’s Guide I was thinking of then to formulate to Truly Help the Young, from young Children thru Adolescence up thru to early to mid-Teens, prior to when one would then have the Mental Maturity & Ability to Pick up the Book I wrote, & Read & Work on themselves to resolve their Issues on their own? Well, I woke up the next day 5/15/20, & realized then, I already Knew what I had to Know to do what I was aiming to do :)… A Resounding Absolutely was the Answer :)… 

Well, when it comes to the Necessary Reading/Work, or Related Guidance in her case, all the Answers are Clearly laid out in the Book I wrote, Unquestionably! The only difference is the need for Guidance for the Youngins, vs. them being able to Read/Educate & Work on themselves.  So with the Book’s material being the Most Difficult part of this endeavor which is COMPLETE, in the Book’s “Final Edition” form,  I Know I could do this! This is Especially True with my Extreme level of Passion & Drive which has been just Growing thru the years, & Knowing what I wrote, is All We Can Do As humans, Naturally, providing Permanent results… So Yeah, with this Reference Book already Done, what a Great way to begin this endeavor!!! 

So, on the early morning of 5/15/20 when I Knew what to do, I woke up and after doing my Morning Meditation/Calibration/ Prayer, I wrote out a rather elaborate plan in an email, and sent it to the family…& that actually provided the Framework for this “Parents Guide” I’m putting together… As far as the receptiveness of the Family, again, it is entirely up to them if they want to consider this Way & Answer I Know it to be, & as I Know this Guide will be! 

Being Convincing in a world where there is so much confusion, different, and convoluted information in the Mental Health world, hard for anyone to believe whatever is provided, even though regarding the Reference Book, when you take a step back and look at the Total Picture, it is So Logically/Factually based written in Layman’s terms making it relatively easy to comprehend/understand & realize… this makes Complete sense, so how could this not work?! Well, that is exactly what I thought when I threw all my eggs in one basket when was at my ropes end & purchased a, my Angel’s (Well Deserved), Self-Help Program I bought for about $400, back in 2002… a 1999 program that Saved my Life at age 46… & not a close 2nd per what I had come across by that time or thereafter, besides my many dealings with a gauntlet of MH Professionals I’ve gone thru… Based on that hopeless journey, I learned absolutely nothing about how to deal with my Worse Case Issues with Anxiety, Depression, OCD for 25 years Naturally/Permanently vs. what I learned via this Self-Help Program coupled with the KEY Additions made (including sect. 4!), culminating in Reference Book’s “Final Cut” which   I will be pointing to continuously for the Go Tos to Help the Youngins who are Struggling/Suffering…  And I Certainly Know this Process Flat Out Works as I have witnessed for myself, my Son, & thereafter for those who Suffered Significantly/Terribly as well, with Book in hand only… Again, Saved my Life, likely my Son’s & Yes for those I have witnessed with Book in hand, likely in a few cases!… To give you an idea of the Book’s Substance & Effectiveness I KNOW of, & as witnessed with Book in Hand, this Blog Post addresses such matters Quite Well: https://riseandshineanxietydepression.net/2020/03/10.

As for the very young and as they mature, this Guide focuses on matters of preparation and adjustments of the Child’s/ Youngin’s Environment/Household to support a Positive Upbringing, to allow them to start off in Life on the right foot.  Importance of Guide’s Household/Environment adjustments & Tidbit/Info flow-down to the Youngins, as mature, is to ward off potential MH Issues, or reduce the extent of Issues in their future which Otherwise could occur.  

So Yes, it would be Best prior to a young child’s development, for the Parents in the making, or Parents to be, to consider Household/Child’s Environment Adjustments… This is again, besides Tidbit/info flow-down to them as they age and mature which would be quite beneficial, in planting those early seeds of proper thoughts in the way Real Life Is. This will Certainly prepare the Child/Youngin, for Real Life circumstances, and for the future when Stresses do amount.  Besides, while teaching the Youngins this flow down of Tidbits/information, this could be very helpful for the Parents as well, or for Anyone really…  And Yeah, this does include (Highly) Recommended/Considerations to implement Faith/Faith Formation within the Household… But before being turned off by this consideration in likely lots of cases & families out there, Please Understand Why I say this as clearly addressed in this Parent’s Guide, as to Its Importance, & realize, as identified in 1.2.1, implementing this would not take much Effort!… Just a matter of Desire & Understanding the Huge Positive Impacts this would have on the Youngins or Anyone!

Of course if Changes to the Household are made later on in Life, that makes the Process much more Difficult…e.g. you have a 14 year old and they are beginning to Struggle/Suffer appreciably. Based on the norm they have been living with during those 14 years, to now having to change & swing that momentous pendulum of Life, likely Opposite to how it has been…Yeah, WOW(!), a Shocker!… Hardly easy to say the least to initiate such Changes! Needless to say, in such a case, Motivation will be Key, such that they will then have the Desire to accept & accommodate Necessary Change including in the way they think and operate via this Guide’s specified Guidance & Training. Simply put, without such Change, there can be No Change!

As far as this Guide’s Approach, in case your Youngin is Struggling/Suffering, since the Reference Book has a Complete Instruction set with necessary Details, including Step by Step Conditioning needs etc., per the included Self-Personalized Positivity Tools/Skills Self-Help Process, geared for Sufferers, or Anyone really, this Book likewise provides an Ideal Guide for Guiding the Youngins to Self-Help them! And the Reference Book covers Issues not only for Anxiety & Depression but all negatively based thinking conditions… i.e. OCD, PTSD, Addiction Recovery, ADD, ADHD, BPD, and for Bipolar 2 (at least) as witnessed for Son!…  As  for Bipolar Type 1 Sufferers, considering this is all we can do for Ourselves, Naturally, then couldn’t imagine this not Helping to a great extent! Or it is also suggested to provide for such Guidance in case there are other signs of Struggling going on… i.e. …the Youngin being overly shy as mature… showing low confidence levels… difficulty making friends, or maybe even being Bullied!

Again, if a Youngin is Struggling or Suffering at a young age, chronologically/ mentally, then they of course will need Guidance/Training thru the Process.  And my #1 Suggestion/Request would be for a Parent , or a chosen Mentor who Knows the Youngin Well , to provide for such Guidance! What is Important here for one thing, is No One would be as CARING as a Parent would & should be in such a case to Help their Youngin! And who would TRY Harder than the Parents to Help their Son or Daughter amend matters if they are Struggling/Suffering?… No One!  You think the average Therapist would provide this Support, with such Desire & Compassion?… Not a chance!… Certainly this is what I personally witnessed having gone thru numerous MH Professionals!…  I don’t remember any being Truly Caring(!), which is So Incredibly Important as a Sufferer! Otherwise, you feel they are just punching in & out on a clock, and that you are nothing but, like a table in a highly questionable book, with serious limitations & shortcoming (as I know now), other than pointing in the direction of a med or more… That’s what I witnessed & Felt… 

To Prepare for this Guidance role, it is Strongly Suggested for a Parent, or the chosen Mentor,  to Read  thru this Guide twice, to ensure you have not missed anything Important, especially for sections/items, 1. Item 2), 1.2 Item 1), 1.2.1, 1.3, 3, 5, & 6.  Also doing a onetime Read thru the Reference Book is suggested,  for Education/Familiarization & again Preparation … This is in support of  proper Guidance needs & to field questions the Youngins will likely pose; otherwise, this will give you a Good feel where to look into the Book or Guide for an answer or  two, or… When you get to the actual process of Guidance of the Youngin, you will be going thru specified sections of the Positivity Process repetitively with the Youngin, when you will be able to more thoroughly understand matters yourself in Process.  

Please Understand Parents/Mentor, the Reference Book’s Instruction set is Specific & Detailed  with no Improvisation necessary at all in Guiding the Youngin via this Book’s Process along with any adjustment needs Clearly specified in this Guide.… And Remember, Just do the Best you can… Give it your Best shot…you can’t go wrong… Besides, you don’t have to be Perfect which is never a human quality anyway… If you have any questions whatsoever, Please contact me at RonnyLG123@gmail.com & I will promptly get back as quickly as I can… With the stated Preparation, along with the Guide’s adjustments & Reference Book in hand, you have everything you need to Help your Youngin!. 

Of course this Guide’s Approach, is in lieu of contacting the Mental Health Community to Help the Youngin… Hmmm!  Again, this is a path which I am all Too Familiar with… As already addressed, & as you would read in the Reference Book. I really didn’t Learn anything about the Proper way of Dealing with my Life’s Issues the Natural/Permanent Way which the Book’s Process Is All About!  Yeah, based on my Dealings with the Mental Health Community, taking a step back & per an Objective view of all what went on, … It can be summed up as “Numbing”… I wrote a Blog post that captures the Book’s words addressing this Somber matter & Experiences: https://riseandshineanxietydepression.net/2019/09/05. 

Of course for me, it is a Clear Choice of which direction to take… Mom or Dad or Mentor with this Guide & Reference Book in hand, & Prepared, or the  Mental Health Professional rout… As I say throughout this Guide, you the Parent(s) or chosen Mentor who is Close or relatively Close to the Youngin, Knowing you are CARING, that you would Try your Best giving it your Best Shot, you can’t go wrong! You would be a world ahead vs. going down the typical Professional rout from what I Experienced… That blog post in last paragraph identifies why I say this based on the Substance of this Guide’s/Ref. Book’s Approach, by comparison, besides these Important qualities I just mentioned!…Need I say more :)?

But within the Guide, I do address if you desire to go the Professional way, then definitely go in the direction of those who specialize in Cognitive Behavior Therapy and who are against the use of meds unless Necessary, which I address. 

Couple more things I ought to bring up here… Similar to a Preface paragraph in the Reference Book: 

As it turned out, I did get a 1 star review for reasons of Capitalization in parts of the Book :)… You may want to read that Review & the “2 Comments” (one from me which I had to, & one from 3/3/20 Reviewer) written on that; “ADD’L NOTES” at the very bottom of Amazon.com site for the Book, addresses how to get to those Comments. 

I wrote this for Content Integrity, 100%… This was not intended to be a literary masterpiece :)!  If you find any grammar errors, or…, all that I can say is , Sorry, but I am just human, and to be human is to err…

So onto the Intro and the Meat of this Matter to address the necessary Details/Specifics of what I Know  is an Excellent Guide for the Youngins for their Upbringing & Well-Being.… This Is Special, my Parent Friends :)… Can’t express to you Enough How Important this is (period), in Helping God’s Children/Youngins :)!  

Thanks, & God Bless to you my Parent Friends :)!

Ron

As for the Guide’s Table of Contents… : The Table of Contents shown is Correct as far as the text Only… Page numbers are inaccurate as these page numbers are indicative of a 8 1/2 x 11 version of the Book vs. the 6 X 9 size the Book Is.

TABLE OF CONTENTS:

PREFACE/SUMMARY.. 5

  1. INTRODUCTION.. 11

1.1.                     Key Information within Book “Rise and Shine Anxiety & Depression & Life Management Tools” “4th/Final Edition—“The Final Cut”, for Educating the Youngins. 20

1.2 Recommendations/Considerations for Adjustments of Environment/Household & Life’s Tidbit & Message flow-down to the Youngins for Proper/Healthy Upbringing. 29

1.2.1   Implement Faith/Faith Formation into the Youngin’s Environment/Household…    41

1.3  Guidance/Training Needs & Specifics/Details, for the Youngin Struggling or Suffering. 47

  1. HOW DID WE GET HERE (I.E. US ANXIETY AND DEPRESSION SUFFERERS) & IMPORTANT BACKGROUND INFORMATION AND EDUCATION……………….51
  1. LIFE STYLE CHANGES / CONSIDERATIONS AND WHAT YOU ARE CONSUMING ? 51

3.1.                     Importance of Medication or Otherwise. 51

3.2.                     Issues with Caffeine, Sugar, Alcohol consumption, Drug abuse. Yes is Applicable in Youth Guidance.. 52

3.3.                     Our Diet and Nutrition. 52

3.4.                     Get out there and Exercise ! 53

  1. FACTORS INVOLVING ONE’S BELIEF SYSTEM; SPIRITUALITY, MINDFULNESS, LIVING LIFE WITH CHILD LIKE ENTHUSIASM, AND SIMPLIFYING LIFE. 53
  2. BASIC/KEY TOOLS NEEDED TO COMBAT AND RID ONE OF ANXIETY AND DEPRESSION OR RELATED. 53

5.1.                     Consideration for potential selection of a Partner to help you through early stages of your Recovery. 59

5.2.                     You need to start Loving Yourself Unconditionally today and thereafter no matter what and no matter how you feel in the process to improve!…………………………………………………. 60

5.2.1.                  Things to Remember in the Process of Recovery………………………………… 61

5.2.3.                  Consider the following definition adjustments and acknowledgements in our Lives  …………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………61

5.2.4.                  Journaling is a/the Key  Therapeutic mental/physical type action required for Recovery and Life management 62

5.3.                     You Need to Learn and Implement Proper Relaxation techniques Daily  62

5.3.1.                  Implement and Repeatedly use Relaxation Routine compatible with Lucinda’s intended tape/media. 62

5.3.2.                  Implement Daily Relaxation Techniques to be used As Needed………….. 62

5.4.                     What Do We Do If Anxiety Crops Up and We Get Those Panicky Feelings  63

5.5.                     Converting Negatives to Positives is Paramount and the Key To Success &  Recovery. 63

5.5.1.                  So what are Negative thoughts?. 66

5.5.2.                  So what are Positive thoughts?. 66

5.5.3.                  Negative to Positive Thoughts Conversion Tools. 66

5.5.4.                  Tidbits and Pointers which will help one in their process to recover 66

5.5.5.                  Examples of Negative to Positive statements, both Good and Bad. 66

5.5.6.                  Think Excitement instead of Fear! 66

  1. WHERE DID/DOES ALL THAT NEGATIVITY COME FROM, RESOLVING SOURCES OF OUR NEGATIVITY, AND SPECIAL TOOLS TO AMEND MATTERS……………………………………………………………………………………… 66

6.1.                     Our Environment and How We Were Brought Up During Those Formative Years. ……………………………………………………………………………………………………………………..69

6.2.                     Unrealistic expectations. 69

6.4.                     Stop being Angry and Control Mood Swings & Rid Yourself of Guilt. 71

6.5.                     You need to Speak Up For Yourself, Assertively but Not -Aggressively. 72

6.5.1.                  Your Assertive Rights per Lucinda’s Attacking Anxiety and Depression program. 72

6.6.                     End of What-if (Anticipatory Anxiety) thinking. 74

6.7.                     Resolve or Dissolve Worries. 75

6.8.                     Ridding of those Ruminating/Obsessive Thoughts. 77

6.9.                     Under-analyze instead of Over-analyzing everything. 78

6.10.                   People in our Lives. 79

6.11.                   Courage to Change. 80

6.12.                   Time Management. 81

6.13.                   Issues with Insomnia. 83

6.14.                   Avoid being Ritualistic/Regimented and Be Flexible and Non-Rigid  83

6.15.                   Stay Active, and if you can, follow your Dreams & Passion/Purpose. 83

6.16.                   Self-Talk and Daily Goals Supporting a Positive Standard for Everyday Living. 83

6.17.                   Daily Self Talk/Positive Affirmations you want to incorporate. 84

  1. Final Summation; Recovery and Striving Towards Peace of Mind in Life…….84

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25 yrs Worse Case Anxiety/OCD, Depression (Deep Depression)... Tried to end my life twice... 4Xs in those psych wards while dealing with a slew of Mental Health Professionals within or during out-patient care thereafter or private sector Pros along the way... Learned NOTHING about NATURAL Way out of my Issues... LEARNED from X-Sufferer as I am now :), about the only psychology Need to Know... How Best to Change negativity to Positivity via Repetitive Training/CBT Process which is Tremendous & which Saved my Life... Funneled whole thing into my Book along with Key Additions f/Depression & other things which could HELP... Then Realized over time NEED our Strong Foundation, Our FAITH, & Connection with GOD (& Jesus being Chrisitian) which is the Basis of our Positivity when get that RIGHT & which Solidified Everything within... NOW Cannot Feasibly get any Stronger Being human. Of course Eating Well/Exercise also covered... Thus Spiritual, Mental/Emotional, & Physical involves All Aspects of our Well-Being & Mental Health we can do for ourselves...

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